Ke-Ayah-an (Fatherhood) merupakan satu proses pembelajaran. Tiada siapa yang antara kita yang benar-benar terus hebat menjadi seorang ayah. Kita mungkin sudah banyak membaca buku mahupun pergi ke kursus-kursus dalam usaha hendak menjadi ibu bapa yang terbaik buat anak-anak kita.
Namun pada hakikatnya apabila anak itu dilahirkan segala yang kita pelajari seolah-olah "tak boleh pakai". Tapi jangan lah kita gelabah (melatah) kerana apa yang telah kita pelajari itu bukanlah usaha yang sia-sia. Kita perlu beri masa untuk diri sendiri bagi menganalisis dan menyesuaikan diri dengan keadaan.
Apabila kita sudah mula menyesuaikan diri maka insyaallah apa yang kita pelajari itu akan mula masuk akal (make sense). Secara jujurnya setelah lima bulan bergelar ayah aku masih lagi dalam proses untuk menyesuaikan diri (yes people I'm struggling). Namun hal itu tidak patut melemahkan mahupun mematahkan semangat aku untuk terus menjadi bapa yang terbaik buat anak aku yang tercinta ini.
Aku percaya segala pengorbanan yang dilakukan dalam usaha untuk menggalas tanggungjawab menjadi seorang ayah ini amat berbaloi. Dalam proses menjadi seorang bapa cemerlang suka untuk aku petik kata-kata seorang sahabat iaitu "apabila kita menjadi seorang bapa, kita perlu jadi seorang anak yang lebih baik". Dan aku amat amat bersetuju dengan kata-kata ini. Kerana istilah yang aku sedar dan pelajari. Pada saat itu barulah aku mengerti setiap apa yang Keputusan yang sukar telah Abah lakukan.
Maka buat ayah-ayah muda, dan bakal-bakal ayah, persiapkan diri anda dengan ilmu ke-ayah-an dan jua persiapkan mental anda. Bersabarlah dan teruskan usaha kita untuk menjadi Bapa Cemerlang dunia dan akhirat.
P/s: buat anakku terima kasih kerana mengajar aku erti ke-Ayah-an dan mengajarku untuk menjadi anak yang lebih baik.
P/ss: Buat Abahku yang telah banyak melakukan pengorbanan dan banyak membebel kepada anakMu gang banyak buat masalah ini, terima kasih tidak terhingga daripada anakmu. Semoga engkau dikurniakan syurga yang tertinggi bersama para Nabi dan Rasul serta syuhada.
19 August 2014
In this world, everything that is good eventually will come to an end. This is the sunnatullah (law of Allah / law of life). Today mark another epic moment of my life in Young Muslims Project (YMP) as Amin is letting go his presidential post and passing on the baton. Through out my journey in YMP he has always been a great leader, mentor, coach, supporter, brother and friend. Like what Rauf (one of my fellow YMPian) said "Amin has always been an anchor in the team".
Even tough we are all sadden by him leaving (well not that his not going to be around) but we also understand that he has achieved his objective. When he took back YMP two years back, it was for the purpose of reviving the original spirit of YMP. All praise to Allah, he has revive YMP, along that way Allah has send him bunch of great lads which I'm also honored to be one of them.
YMP is a platform for young people who share the same idea, same ideology. We are all brought together under one purpose that is to please Allah the All Mighty. YMP is not own by anyone, it is rather a social cause that if you share the same goal, and idea you can be part of it. And during Amin's last speech, he reminds us of this. He remind us what YMP was and what YMP will always be.
Allah has choose me and showed to me that when someone is sincere He will help him. Like Allah said in the Quran, if my slave come walking to me, I'll run to them. Allah guide those who He wants to guide. Those who has been guided by Allah can never be misguided. Yes in YMP you will see how people can change in a snap moment and how awesome is the miracle of Allah.
Today, is a new beginning for us as we move forward with our new leader, our new Mr. President. I believe that Mr Ash will do a great job. He has been prepared and has been chosen by Allah for this and I envy him for that. Always know that we are here to support you, to lift you, to help you to bring this cause to another level. To a level where all YMPians dream about that is in bringing change into the society.
May Allah help us, guide us and always keep our intention sincere. As nothing more that we want other than being blessed by our Lord. So for those who are interested to join us, can give me a buzz or come to one of our event and speak to us. We look forward of seeing you guys there.
|The family has grown in a year.|
10 August 2014
It has been really a while since I last wrote here, and I have lost count how many "it has been a while" post I have wrote. But that is the reality people. To keep up with writing is not easy especially when you don't really practice or continuously write. It used to be a great hobby, but I have become a sheep, I let other people's opinion ruin my joy in writing. I let my self down. I stop writing.
Now I am trying to revive the passion, hence that is why this post is very random. I am just going to write whatever that crosses my mind. In Shaa Allah this would be a daily practice with the hope that I'll get my writing Mojo back.
Pray for me my dear readers. I don't know whether you guys are still here or not but whenever you guys read this. Pray for me. May Allah bless all of you.
31 January 2014
Spontaneous Idealists are creative, lively and open-minded persons. They are humorous and dispose of a contagious zest for life. Their enthusiasm and sparkling energy inspires others and sweeps them along. They enjoy being together with other people and often have an uncanny intuition for their motivations and potential.
Spontaneous Idealists are masters of communication and very amusing and gifted entertainers. Fun and variety are guaranteed when they are around. However, they are sometimes somewhat too impulsive in dealing with others and can hurt people without really meaning to do so, due to their direct and sometimes critical nature.
This personality type is a keen and alert observer; they miss nothing which is going on around them. In extreme cases, they tend to be oversensitive and exaggeratedly alert and are inwardly always ready to jump. Life for them is an exciting drama full of emotionality. However, they quickly become bored when things repeat themselves and too much detailed work and care is required. Their creativity, their imaginativeness and their originality become most noticeable when developing new projects and ideas - they then leave the meticulous implementation of the whole to others. On the whole, Spontaneous Idealists attach great value to their inner and outward independence and do not like accepting a subordinate role. They therefore have problems with hierarchies and authorities.
If you have a Spontaneous Idealist as your friend, you will never be bored; with them, you can enjoy life to the full and celebrate the best parties. At the same time, they are warm, sensitive, attentive and always willing to help. If Spontaneous Idealists have just fallen in love, the sky is full of violins and their new partners are showered with attention and affection. This type then bubbles over with charm, tenderness and imagination. But, unfortunately, it soon becomes boring for them once the novelty has worn off. Boring everyday life in a partnership is not for them so that many Spontaneous Idealists slip from one affair into another. However, should the partner manage to keep their curiosity alive and not let routine and familiarity gain the upper hand, Spontaneous Idealists can be inspiring and loving partners.
Adjectives that describe your type
spontaneous, enthusiastic, idealistic, extroverted, theoretical, emotional, relaxed, friendly, optimistic, charming, helpful, independent, individualistic, creative, dynamic, lively, humorous, full of zest for life, imaginative, changeable, adaptable, loyal, sensitive, inspiring, sociable, communicative, erratic, curious, open, vulnerable
As a Spontaneous Idealist you are one of the extroverted personality types. You enjoy working in a colorfully diverse group of people who interest and inspire you. Working in a “secluded room” is not your thing. Your sense for the motivation of others is almost eerie. You constantly observe that which happens around you and have no problems noticing all sorts of things simultaneously or communicating with several people at the same time.
Your enthusiasm is contagious to others and that is why your colleagues and friends all appreciate you as an important member of your team. Your articulateness and your sensitive ear for nuances in conversations with others obviously play a role. For you, this team-oriented environment is very important because you need to receive positive feedback and recognition like other people need air to breathe. It would be practically impossible for you to contribute everything you need to maintain your high ideals, by yourself.
Variety, challenges and fun are important ingredients of your area of responsibility. You appreciate receiving new stimulation, meeting new people, and continuously collecting unique experiences. However, too much routine, too much detail work and the necessity to stick with one project for a very long time is not your thing. Your strength are creative problem solutions, discovering new ways and opportunities, the conceptualization of new ideas on one hand, but not so much their concrete implementation on the other. Ideally, you have a staff of capable colleagues that takes over your concepts and runs with them.
16 December 2013
The heart is the king of our body including our mind. We may have not realize it but it is. Can I prove it scientifically? Well I might need to do more research on that.
When we talk about the state of the heart, it is always about our own and not others. The knowledge that we acquire about the heart is for us to analyze and reflect upon ourselves. The moment we use it against others, it just sums up the actual state of our heart.
The Heart is very personal and customized, to the extent that only Allah and one self can judge it. Others cannot do so. Usama bin Zaid R.A was sent in an expedition, he spoke about one man in the battlefield, he said:
“… I saw one of them, he said “laa ilaaha illallah”. I stabbed him, and after that I felt bad and so told Muhammad (saw) what I did. The Prophet (saw) asked: “did he say laa ilaha illallah, and you killed him?” I said: “He said it, but only out of fear for my sword.” He (saw) asked “did you check his heart to see if he believed it?” he kept on repeating that question until I wished that I was not Muslim yet until that day.” [Muslim V-2 P-107]
Usama bin Zaid R.A was dispraised by Prophet Muhammad (SAW) strongly because he judged someone’s intention. It was clearly manifested by the Prophet SAW that when it comes to matters of the heart it is for Allah to judge. Even the angels do not judge us by our intentions, rather our actions. So who are we to judge others by assuming their intention? Can we conduct an operation, take out their heart and look what is written in it? Certainly not!
Whenever we learn about our heart, it is important to be sincere and true to ourselves because when we know the reality of the heart, it will be the door for syaitaan to come in and tell us how difficult it is to be sincere to our own self. He will paint a picture in your mind that to have a noble heart is actually impossible and so therefore, we should stop wasting time to achieve it.
That is why when judging one’s heart it is important for us to be sincere with ourselves. Wallahi we know our heart and only we can cheat ourselves, but what’s the point? Denying reality? If we cannot be true to ourselves then how can we be true to others? If we are living a lie, what can ensure us that we live our lives upon the truth? How can others trust us when we can’t even trust ourselves?
I would like to remind myself, first and foremost and all of you that the knowledge of the heart is a guideline for us to reflect upon ourselves, not to use it against others. It is not our job to check what’s in other people’s heart. Indeed human are insaan (which comes from the root word; forgetful), we cannot be perfect and we will never be perfect. However, perfect is not a state to achieve, perfect is a journey. We need to constantly strive to be perfect because perfection is the characteristic of Allah SWT, and journey to perfection is journey to be close to Allah SWT.
I ask Allah SWT to forgives us for our previous sins and for Him to turn those sins into good deeds. May Allah guide us and give us a deeper understanding in learning about our heart. May He keep us steadfast, may He make us amongst those who have taqwa to Him and may He grant us hidayah and taufiq for us to implement our knowledge.
"This is an article base on the compilation, and digestion of notes from a lecture entitled Matters of the Heart by Sheikh Saad Tasleem, at Heart Therapy Camp organized by iMuslim."
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